What Type of Introvert are You? } Takes less then 5 minutes. f Read each definition, then click on the most appropriate answer. There are no right or wrong choices. Step 1 of 6 0% 1. Sociable; basic orientation to communicationsThinking about your contribution at meetings*You will answer specific questions and tend not to say very much else. You often think of what you want to say laterYou need to be invited into the conversation and then will share your ideas. You will stop if people don't seem to be listeningYou have a lot of ideas and comments and are fairly good at judging the right time to share themYou tend to be one of the first to speak and you have a lot of great ideas to shareWhen you go to networking events or social gatherings*You usually find excuses so you avoid them where possible as you just feel awkward. You'll probably be in the corner, out of the way if you goYou prefer to be introduced and if you can find someone you know, you'll stick with them. You'll leave as soon as it's polite to do soYou like to go with a plan and a list of people you want to chat with. Once you've achieved your goal, you'll probably leaveYou are happy to mix in large groups and enjoy connecting people with shared interests. You're often one of the last to leave 2. Open; communicating emotions, feelings and interestsWhen you're asked about yourself*You are very selective about what you share and with whom. Most people probably only know superficial information about youOnce you begin to really trust people you may start to open up but it's a slow process that you're completely in control ofThere are times when you share readily and other times when you're guarded, keeping your 'cards close to your chest'You readily share thoughts, feelings and information about yourself; sometimes a bit too much!When you're getting into conversation with people*You can't always find the right words as there is so much going on in your head. You may even try to look 'busy' with your phone to avoid being engagedYou have a few conversation starters but once you've used those you get a bit stuck. You then rely on other people to keep the conversation goingYou find it quite easy to talk with some people but will want to move on to someone else if you don't get much in returnYou need feedback and two-way communication for conversation to flow. You know you probably do most of the talking though 3. Connected; breadth & depth of connectionsHow would you describe your social circle?*Your social circle is very small as you have just a few really close friends who you may not see for long periods of timeYou have a few close friends that you meet occasionally who know you and your challenges quite wellYou have quite a diverse set of friends and contacts some of whom know you quite well but most are just contactsYour social circle is very wide as you have loads of people you socialise with. Typically you'll have contacts in may different countriesWhen it comes to celebrating a significant birthday or anniversary*If you celebrate it at all, you prefer a very small, intimate get together or dinner party with just a few close friendsYou're fairly happy with small gatherings that don't go on for too long and you can't wait to get back to your own space thoughYou would enjoy being presented with a surprise party by friends who know how much you like to celebrate with peopleYou prefer a big bash; the more the merrier. It'll probably go on late into the night and get quite rowdy 4. Dynamic; how people engage for entertainment, socialising and learningWhen you have something to learn*You like to take your time and learn best from written material and/or observing. Your process is 'think-do-think'You prefer to know what you’re doing before giving something new a goYou are prepared to give things a go before needing to know the 'right' way as you know you'll reflect and learn from the experienceYou like to be actively involved when learning and like to participate and 'have a go' at new things. Your process is 'do-think-do'What types of things do you choose for entertainment?*You choose creative, artistic, intellectual or cultural activities that don't require teamworkYou choose things to do either alone or with small groups of people; you're happy either wayYou are drawn to activities where you will be around a number of people even if not in teamsYou choose fun, lively activities with lots of people around 5. Engaging; the level of energy you bring to an exchangePeople would describe you as being*Calm, reserved and a quiet presence. They may even think you're shy & some may wrongly say arrogantQuite calm and interesting to talk to as you have certain knowledge and wisdom to share with those who'll engageQuite chatty, interesting and fun to be with as you have a spark of energy that people find attractiveTalkative, lively and attracted by noise like a moth is to a flame. Can be too loud for some thoughYour contributions, interventions and presentations tend to be*Succinct, measured and to the point. Whilst you don't say more than is necessary, you can speak at length about things that really interest you. When you speak, people listenTimely, interesting and on-point. You'll contribute less than many others at a meeting and as your interventions are always on-point, people like to hear from youInteresting, engaging and thought-provoking. You'll speak more than most at a meeting and will listen to the contributions of others if it seems relevantEntertaining, fast-paced and fun. You sometimes go off-topic as you often say whatever comes into your mind. This keeps things lively and you engaged Final DetailsOne final step before we send you your report. Name* First Last Email* Data consent* Yes, I give consent for Jo Rawbone @ Flourishing Introverts to email me my results, along with relevant tips & advice Note: We will never share your details with any third party. View our Privacy Policy here. 1 - Sociable Total /82 - Open Total /83 - Connected Total/84 - Dynamic Total/85 - Engaging Total/80. Classic IntrovertThe Classic Introvert. As a Classic Introvert you demonstrate all of the typical aspects of introversion that we’ve come to know and understand. As you’re reading this make a note of the things that really resonate with you. In general you prefer to communicate with people you know as it takes some effort to keep conversations going. People who know you well are happy with the companionable silence that often occurs. In groups of people you’ll be the thoughtful observer who takes everything in and will wait your turn to contribute. Only, that time often doesn’t come as the conversation moves on at a pace without you finding the gap you’re looking for. You find networking meetings and large parties difficult and may find yourself in the proverbial ‘kitchen at parties’, looking for an ‘escape’ route. Sometimes you accept invitations either with no intention of attending or you realise on the day that you don’t have the energy or inclination to attend. You may find it difficult to remember names without a clear strategy. When it comes to sharing about yourself, you’re very selective with what you share and with whom. You’re happier sharing interests as opposed to feelings. As communicating requires energy you can’t always find the right words. You’ll think things through until they’re perfectly formed but by then the moment may have passed. You’re unlikely to talk about emotional distress unless you really trust the other person. If you are involved in conflict you’re most likely to consider your position, think about what you want to say and engage when you feel prepared. Expressing your emotions is not always easy and you’re very selective about when you do this; safety first! If you do decide to tackle the conflict, it’s also easier for you to one-on-one rather than in a large group. Thinking about your connections, you’re comfortable with people you know well, and trust as has already been mentioned. You’re awkward with small-talk and can find it difficult to find common ground. You may spend all of your time with one person at a party or group event, seeking them out at the beginning as you’re more comfortable with 1:1 interaction or even companionable silence. If you decide to attend a social gathering for work or socially, you’re more likely to go with someone you know really well and stick by them in the hope that they can do most of the talking and introduce you to others. You’re likely to have a small circle of good and loyal friends who you really trust. IF that trust is broken you may well take it personally. You bring a calm and reserved energy to your interactions which results in a quiet presence. You aim for your interactions to be effortless in order to conserve your energy. We know how much big groups can drain your energy! You can be distracted by noise making it hard to concentrate which also drains your energy. You self-censor as it’s often hard to convey the richness of your thoughts so you’re sparing with what you say. This makes your interventions relevant, succinct and to the point. Potentially though, your valuable contribution may go unsaid because you are still mentally processing. It’s simple really, because you have lots of mental stimulus you don’t need as much external stimulus as an extravert. You may feel at a disadvantage when working in a team as you don’t get given airtime as others excitedly move things forward. You may have even been labelled as ‘not a team player’ or as I was, a ‘low contributor’. People are unlikely to know your point of view and whether you support a decision or not. If we think now about you socialising, learning and having fun, you look for things that evoke a visual, intellectual or mental response like creative, artistic, intellectual and cultural activities. Your process for making meaning requires engaging mentally which others don’t see of course so they don’t know whether you’re with them or not. You enjoy learning most if you have the chance to read, watch an exercise or experience and then reflect on it making your own notes. You don’t like being thrown in the deep end unprepared. Because you prefer to think things through you may be uncomfortable being asked to make quick decisions or being put on the spot. Your natural process is think – do – think. At the end of the day, you enjoy some quiet time to unpack the day and if you need to go out, you’d rather have some downtime first. 1. SociableThe Sociable Introvert You identified some preferences around Sociability in common with many extraverts. Unlike classic introverts, you are someone who likes to connect with others in a pro-active way and you’re happier to mix with people in both small and large gatherings. You may even have a skill for networking, making small talk, and mixing with new people. You will carefully consider each invitation you receive and will make your decision about whether to attend based on your goals and the likely attendees. Once you accept, you’re more likely to show up than some of the classic introverts. You are happy to mingle and introduce people to each other at parties, social events and business functions making beneficial introductions between people. You may look for interesting people to chat with and you’ve probably developed a way of keeping conversations going by going out of your way to find common ground. You’ll be a blessing for other introverts at a gathering as you’re also likely to spot them and invite them into a conversation. You may find yourself chatting with strangers in queues quite comfortably. And just as quickly you can turn away and focus on something or someone else or retreat back into your own thoughts. People may not believe you’re technically an introvert because you’re so comfortable in groups and social gatherings. 2. OpenThe Open Introvert. Your responses to the questions indicate that you have some Open preferences in common with many extraverts. Your type of introversion relates to when and how you share about yourself. Unlike classic introverts you’re relatively happy to share your thoughts, personal history, interests and even feelings once you have a sense of trust. As a result, people find you easy to get to know. So, when people ask ‘how are you?’ you’ll probably tell them (depending on culture of course because us Brits often say ‘fine’ as a standard response!) In fact, you’re surprisingly talkative for an introvert especially on a subject that interests you. You prefer people to be open and honest in the same way that you are. You find two-way communication necessary for authenticity and look for feedback from trusted sources. You find more private people distant, although because you understand and respect this aspect of their nature, you leave space for them. You are often prepared to discuss the undiscussable if you think it will help the situation. You can be refreshingly open and honest in your communications which can surprise people, especially if they have thought of you as a classic introvert. People may not believe you’re technically an introvert. This is because you’re easy to build rapport with when you open up and share information about yourself, and you can be really talkative about things that interest you. 3. ConnectedThe Connected Introvert. Your answers show some connection preferences in common with many extraverts. Unlike many of the more classic introverts, you have a wider circle of friends, acquaintances and colleagues; some deep and meaningful, some more superficial but you still consider them friends and enjoy the variety. You enjoy being in the company of other people and don’t find it as draining as a classic introvert would do as you like group interaction and the back and forth nature of social chatter which allows you to build rapport easily. You may belong to quite a few groups and play an active role in those groups. You are likely to have quite a few hobbies and pastimes if the right people are involved. You seem to be popular and well known; having a salient personal brand to use marketing speak. If you’re celebrating a big birthday, there will be quite a few people on the guest list. You’re not afraid to use your network strategically to open doors for yourself and others. You’re a connector after all. People may find it strange when they find out you’re primarily an introvert because you’re so well connected and known for your personal brand. 4. DynamicThe Dynamic Introvert Some of your answers suggest you have some Dynamic preferences in common with many extraverts. If we consider how you socialise, learn and have fun, you prefer to be more actively engaged. Where Classic Introverts prefer learning by reading and note taking, you prefer to learn more actively by getting involved, having a go, watching others and engaging in debate. You’re up for having the experience and are fairly happy to be thrown in at the deep end. You’re more like extraverts in that you contribute by speaking and don’t always think everything through first. This means some of what you say is ‘off the cuff’, unrehearsed and unplanned as it’s the participation that’s important. Your natural process is do - think – do. You like to see people you’re communicating with so that you can read their facial expressions, pick up what they’re not saying and respond appropriately. Like other introverts you’re a good listener and are able to read between the lines and notice what’s not being said. You may also offer to take the lead in new groups and situations where you are learning in a group, an unusual offer from an introvert. People may see you more as an extravert because you speak out more freely than most introverts. 5. Engaging.The Engaging Introvert. From the way you responded to the questionnaire, you have some interaction preferences in common with many extraverts. Unlike many more introverted people, you often bring a lively and excitable energy to your interactions. You can be quite talkative and you find verbal exchanges with the right people stimulating. Your enthusiasm is infectious and others gravitate to you especially when you know what you’re talking about. You’re animated when communicating and tell a good story with great timing. You have a good sense of humour and often stimulate laughter, especially if things get too serious. You bring that energy to both 1:1 and large group settings whether that be car sharing, holidays or meetings. You have a knack of knowing what’s going on and have your finger on the pulse as you have the ability to gather and remember bits of information about people from your conversations. You are at the centre of attention from time to time being at the heart of engaging, lively and entertaining conversation. You’re drawn like a moth to a flame to where the right stuff is happening. You quite like the buzz of a busy place for a short time if you’ve had time to recharge your batteries. And, like all introverts the time will come to withdraw and recharge. People may be confused when they realise you’re an introvert because your energy acts as a magnet that others are drawn to. Copyright 2019 Flourishing Introverts.